The Alchemy of Love and Lust

34. Read a book from cover to cover.

I generally read books that are informative. I really don't like to read fiction novels. I usually find myself bored once I am in the first few chapters. I don't feel like my mind is stimulated enough. I will read books on topics that interest me, like Economics, Politics, Sex and so forth.

I have read from cover to cover:

"The Alchemy of Love and Lust" by Theresa L. Crenshaw, M.D.

This book talks about how our sex hormones influence our relationships. It may be too "sciency" for some people but I actually found this book quite interesting. Some may not realize how much our hormones dictate our daily lives.

This book also answers the question: Why do men have nipples?

Apparently, a man's nipple is quite sensitive and can be compared to the sensitivity of a woman's clitoris. It is not for decoration, but for sexual stimulation!

Have you ever wondered why you feel so safe and wonderful when someone you love holds you close? It's like nothing can harm you. It's the best feeling in the world, really. You want to get away from reality? This is a good way to do it!

Oxytocin is a very interesting hormone and perhaps is that one hormone that will make you step over the line of love and lust. Touch is a very powerful resource that we have as humans and we should take advantage. Touching is good for our well being. We can't live without it.
When we touch, our endorphins rise. So does our level of oxytocin--the bonding hormone. Oxytocin bonds and attaches us to those we love and causes us to love those it bonds to.It is also deeply involved with parenting behaviors, and causes contractions of the uterus during labor and childbirth! On the negative side, it makes us forgetful and diminishes our capacity to think clear.

 The more we touch someone, the more likely we will be bonded and attached to them. It creates a bonding pattern that if persisted, will get stronger and stronger over time. And suddenly, that guy that was supposed to be a one night stand, you suddenly find yourself falling in love with him. (True story!)
If you are fighting with your loved one, it may be hard, but just hug them for a few moments. And you may notice that the anger between you two will dissolve.

Did you know that Prozac is prescribed to prevent premature ejaculation?

And that's just a general glimpse of what this book has to offer! It may answer even answer some questions that you have when it comes to relationships. It sure did with me!